I was told by a wise man that there are two tests that allow you to know that you have raised your children into society with character and integrity and two gifts that you want to give your children:
1. If they Are keeping the faith.
2. If they are productive contributing members of society.
1. Roots – strong and deep
2. Wings -
I will focus on one of the Gifts here:
I (Kris too but I must speak for myself) am currently working with my 7 year old daughter specifically on the roots. ( My son as well but I want to talk specifically about Her.) I have an internal struggle that I put myself through and don’t have to as I raise our children to have the gifts and to know that when they leave the nest they will be contributing members of society.
She has a soccer game. She does not want to go. She wants to go with her friend to spend the night. Then go on the girl scout camping trip. Kris and I are in a wedding, dinner rehearsal tonight – we can take the kids. We need help from the other parents in order for her to get to do both. We have plan A and plan B.
A. She goes to her soccer game and then leaves with one of the moms and girls on the team off to the camp out.
B. She goes with another little girl after school today to spend the night and wake up go to the sisters swim meet and then off to camp.
Savannah wants to do B. She could really care less about the soccer game. (Mom struggle: I want her to have fun at all of it.) She’s only 7 what does it matter if she misses her game, she really just wants to have fun with her friends. She wakes up crying because she wants to spend the night with her friend and miss her game. I do not want to see her sad.
**Truth – she committed to her team to be there and she has to keep her commitment till the season is over. We thought we were going to have to leave early and she was going to have to stay the night with her friend later to find out that she could do both camping and soccer game!
Carey – stay strong in your parenting and grow those roots deep!!! Teach her commitment. Teach her that it is not just about her that when she misses her game she is also letting the team down. Hmmm… what does parent learn here? Commitment, staying true to your word. Stick till the end.